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Why go to confession?

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Awaiting theological review

What you will understand today

What happens in confession, why Catholics confess to a priest, and why it is about mercy, not shame.

In simple words

Only God forgives sins. But on the evening of Easter, the risen Jesus breathed on his apostles and gave them the power to forgive sins in his name. Catholics believe this continues in the sacrament of Reconciliation, also called Penance or confession.

Sin hurts our friendship with God and also the people around us and the whole Church. In confession, the priest stands both for Christ and for the Church: you hear, in a human voice, that you are forgiven.

It is simple: you think back over your life (an examination of conscience), you are sorry, you tell your sins to the priest, he may give some advice and a penance — a prayer or an act of repair — and he speaks the words of absolution. The priest may never reveal anything he hears: this seal is absolute.

Key Bible passage

King David admits his sin — and hears at once that God has taken it away.

13And David said to Nathan: I have sinned against the Lord. And Nathan said to David: The Lord also hath taken away thy sin: thou shalt not die.

2 Samuel 12:13 · Douay-Rheims 1899 American Edition

How confession goes
  1. ExamineLook honestly at your life
  2. Be sorryContrition, and the will to change
  3. ConfessSay your sins to the priest
  4. AbsolutionI absolve you…
  5. PenanceA prayer or act of repair

Go deeper

In the first centuries, public penance for grave sins was long and could be received only once in a lifetime. From the sixth and seventh centuries, Irish monks spread a private, repeatable form of confession, which became the practice of the whole Western Church.

Catholics are required to confess serious sins at least once a year, but the Church warmly encourages confessing everyday faults as well, as a way of growing. Many people go once a month, or before great feasts.

The words of absolution say what happens: God, the Father of mercies, through the death and resurrection of his Son has reconciled the world to himself and sent the Holy Spirit for the forgiveness of sins… I absolve you from your sins, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.

Questions people ask

What if I forget a sin?

If you forget a sin without meaning to, it is forgiven with the others. You can mention it next time if it was serious.

I am too ashamed to say it out loud.

Priests have heard everything and are bound to absolute secrecy. You can say simply: I am finding this hard to say. Many people choose a priest they do not know, or confess behind a screen.

Can I confess directly to God instead?

You should always tell God you are sorry. Catholics believe Christ also gave the Church the ministry of forgiveness, so that we can hear, in a human voice, that we are forgiven — and for serious sins this sacrament is the ordinary way.

Read more in the Bible

Did you know?

Historical context

In 1215 the Fourth Lateran Council asked every Catholic to confess at least once a year, and declared that a priest who revealed a confession was to be removed from his ministry.

CCC 1457 CCC 1467 Fourth Lateran Council (1215), canon 21(awaiting verification)

A common misconception

Confession is meant to humiliate you.

In fact

Confession is a meeting with mercy. The Catechism says the priest acts like the Good Shepherd looking for the lost sheep, and like the father who welcomes the prodigal son home.

A question to take with you

Is there something you carry that you have never been able to put down?

One small thing for today

Find when confessions are heard in a parish near you — and read the parable of the prodigal son, Luke 15:11–32.

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